The science of love. sz

It’s not what you say...

Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone.

Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather

* 55% is through body language;

* 38% is the tone and speed of their voice;

* Only 7% is through what they say.

The 3 stages of love:

Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in the States has proposed 3 stages of love: Lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals.

The Lust: Is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones.

The Attraction: This is amazing time when you era truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage: adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.

The Attachment: Is the bond that keeps couples together log anough for them to have and raise children.Scientits think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment:oxytocin and vasopressin.

Functions of those hormones:

Adrenaline: Makes the heart beat stronger, the person start to sweat and her mouth goes dry. The adrenaline takes care of the homeostasis, that means that the adrenaline can regulates our emotions and our inner self as a whole.

Dopamine: People who are passionate have a big quantity of dopamine, that chemical have the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine.The person get excited easily and becomes addicted to wish her beloved.

Serotonin: Is the one of the most important chemicals in love, because this substance keeps the beloved in the person's mind.

Oxytocin: Is an important chemical, because is the one who is released during the orgasm, the female and the male orgasm.Makes that the couple feels closer than ever after sex, the teory says that more sex cause more proximity between the couple. That chemical makes the maternal love stronger too.

Vasopressin: Is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.

Sources: http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm

All you need is love

In the actuality, relationships are very difficult to keep. The right person is very difficult to find, and, with the time, the fights are very common and soon, the two are going to be lonely again.
In one site arazão (http://www.arazao.com.br/2010/06/02/bem-me-quer-aborda-as-relacoes-amorosas/) they say that the couples needs more conversation face-to-face, and with the technology this is going to decrease even more.

In another site, (Revista Veja), they say that during the kiss, there is the release of oxytocin, which facilitates the connection emotional between partners. In the case of sex, immediately after orgasm, the levels of the substance rise, on average, 40%.

Produced in the brain, oxytocin is essential to the women to engage in mothering basic and protect your child against the dangers. That reminds us about the children in a relationship. Sometimes that fix like a excuse to the couple continue together, but, in other cases, this is the manifestation of the true love.

Talking now about the maternal love, this is something inexplicable. Don’t matter the age, the love will always be the same, it’s something totally different of the love between two people. The maternal love is essencial, because if the mother don’t give to the child a complete love, this could prejudice the kid in the future. She could be a stressed, depressive person.

After all this, we can concluse that everybody needs a love. It could a maternal love, or a love between two people, but what we really need is to feel that somebody needs you, and you need her back.